Dealing with Homework

Homework Can Be the Chopping Block for Family Relationships

There have been many casualties in the family household when it comes to homework. Parents strain with the boy who hates homework, or better yet, the boy who “never has homework.” Through my teaching career, I have heard many times:

       “Why can’t my son be like my daughter?”

“Why does my son hate homework?”

From a teacher’s perspective, I see a different laundry list of issues when it comes to homework. Long gone is the excuse of  “Fido eating my homework.” The excuses I hear now go beyond the normal facets of what the normal imagination can create. Here are some great examples that I hear in the classroom, followed by the responses from their mothers:

     Son: “ My parents told me to go to bed early since I had a rough day”

     Parent: “He told me yesterday was the greatest day of his life since he and his neighborhood friends had no homework.”

     Son: “My dad a long day at work, so we decided to spend some much needed time as a family.”

     Parent: “My husband is on a business trip in Vancouver… until next Monday.”

     Son: “I left my homework in the carpool van”

     Parent: “My son rides his bike home.”

A great strategy to tackle homework is first finding the unique quarks of your son.

One of the most amazing aspects of the universe of boys is that each one is very unique. No boy is the same, and this is what truly makes this great, wide world go around. Yet, even though a day in the life of a boy can seem to imitate a giant circus, this doesn’t mean homework should be the same.  I have picked a few “stereotypical situations with boys,” and have laid out a few tips on a how to create a happy homework environment.

My son always does his homework.

Parents envy you. Neighbors think your parent of the year. The grocery clerk even gives you discounts all the time because you have “that kid!” Your son strives to do his homework before the school day ends, and usually is successful. He takes every opportunity at school to finish, and when he gets home, if there is any prey left to feast on: he executes with succinct skillfulness. So what pitfalls could there possibly be? Well, I am glad that you asked!

Make your son articulate topics about different classes

At some point, your son’s passion and love for school will plateau. Trust me, it happens to every student, and this is apart of life. If there weren’t these pitfalls, then there would be no room for growth.

Have daily conversations about the topics going on in class. Ask concrete questions (try to offer a reason for your question) such as:

Question: “What are 4 topics you are talking about in history class? ”

Reason:  “History was my favorite subject growing up, so I am interested to see what you guys are talking about.”

Question: “Can you give me 5 written examples of what you are studying in language arts?”

Reason: “I want to test your memory so to see if you are as good as you say your are.”

Question: “Can you quiz me over a few points from the math lesson you are going over?”

Reason: “I want to see if I can still do these kind of problems now that I am out of school.”

Question: “Can you tell me what quizzes and tests are going to take place this week?”

Reason: “I want to make sure you haven’t gotten rusty, and are on top of everything.”

These kinds of conversations will keep your son’s academic skills and communication skills spruced. Having your son articulate and write down topics, even in small amounts, will keep the ideas fresh in his mind. It will also give you an idea about what is going on in class, and whether or not he truly has mastery over his core subjects. This will be of great help when your son hits a wall in school, or plain out starts to dislike his studies.

My son comes home, and hates doing his homework

Your son is the sweetest young man in the neighborhood, a good friend, loves sports, even stays on top of his chores (with a smile) but he and homework have been going at it since the War of Northern aggression. How can I possibly get him to do his homework?

I am going to be very honest: homework is not fun. Even as I went back to school, I still did not like homework. This is a normal feeling. You can combat this human instinctual disdain for homework though by staying disciplined.

Start the homework process immediately.

Ideally, homework should begin pretty soon after you get home. Though there can be room for other activities: sports, showers, naps, etc. This must be a routine that never changes. The principle that should be applied is that homework is something that must be done, no exception. If your son knows that he has to do his homework right after school, every day, then he will be habitually trained to take on the task. My advice for this is to start very early, and don’t give up. Even if your son is kicking, screaming, teething, and crying. do not forget: you are the parent, and run the show. 

Homework must be a part of the culture at home. A productive home culture has designated times for doing important activities like homework, chores, bedtime, etc.   

Create a warm, safe haven for your boys.

  • Have on hand great, healthy snacks: carrots, avocados, cheese, water, and hot chocolate.
pumpkin-seeds

Great ideas here for brain power foods!

  • Have a clean, organized work area so that your son may not be distracted.
Great blog for creating different homework stations!

Great blog for creating different homework stations!

  • The environment quiet and soothing. Playing soft classical music will not only set a soothing, creative mood, but also aid in bringing up a cultured young man.
Yo Yo Ma

Yo-Yo Ma is a great choice for a pandora station.

My son comes home, and says he never has homework.

How can I forget about the son who plans on becoming a magician. This young lad has the great attribute of making homework disappear. Unfortunately, he also seems to posit early signs of dementia since he always forgets that he even has homework. Your son always gets out of getting his homework done in one way or another. You are struggling to find solutions for this issue. Here are a few tips to getting your son to harness both his forgetfulness and mischief.

Plan out the entire week

Planning is a difficult task, but essential for organization. Organization is necessary for academic success. There are a few ways you can do this.

  • The erasable board: Having an calendar in the study or living room that can be changed according to your needs is not only useful, but it is very evident to the entire family when major tests are coming up. 

erasable board

  • A binder planner: If you are a paper and pen person, a portable binder with a calendar can be very useful for you and your son. 
Russes and Hazel have a great variety of tab sources for your planner.

Russes and Hazel have a great variety of tab sources for your planner.

  • Planner mobile Apps: If you prefer a tech approach towards planning the week, you can have all of your son’s homework, quizzes, and tests on both of your iphones. These apps also have reminders and alerts that connect to your laptop, ipad, and  gmail calendar.
Mystudylife: an excellent app for planning, and connecting all of your devices with one platform.

Mystudylife: an excellent app for planning, and connecting all of your devices with one platform.

Weekplan: This is another app useful for planning.

Weekplan: This is another app useful for planning.

All of these tips can be used for any student, wherever he is in life.

If your asking yourself whether or not your the only one that thinks that all of these tips can be used in your home, well your not alone. These tips can be used for any boy. With the competitive nature of schools only growing more fierce, is no wonder why homework is such a daunting task for any student, so why should it be easy for parents? It isn’t, but nothing good in life comes easy. Whenever the trouble hits the fan and it looks like there is no hope, remember to take a deep breath, have a healthy snack, and remind yourself that not only do you want your son to succeed in school, but most of all, you want him to have a warm and happy life as a kid.